Doing our work, so that we can do our work

Someone recently told me that I was, to paraphrase, too "self-analytical” basically, that I spend too much time thinking about myself. It stung.  
Is this really how I appear? OMG Have I been misunderstood, again?
(Cue the ouch of recurring life-theme)
And then I forgot about it ...but not really.

Having recently spent a week on retreat with with a group of people doing some deep "self-analyzing" I'm thinking of it again. 
And of the need for us not get stuck in "self" work, but to follow the continuum of healing, so that our own found clarity and wholeness is the foundation from which we move to heal brokenness in he world -in whichever ways we are uniquely inspired to do so. Art, writing, animals, hospice work, gardening with love ...just BE-ing, living and interacting from this place.

The truth is that the personal development/self help/coaching world can be maddeningly narcissistic and ego serving, and become a loop of navel gazing and designer mala beads.

My own commitment to self inquiry and healing, and the reason I coach, is about the very opposite --it's because whole, healed, authentic people create a whole, healed world. And this is my daily entreaty ...

Its about dynamic revealing, and seeing, peeling back the layers of false conditioning and disconnect, about figuring out what really, deeply, matters. And then turning our gaze and our actions, outward, and being the change.

Just as we aren’t designed to be solitary creatures, but meant for connection -to immediate community and greater earth community, our work to embody a fuller expression of who we really are, isn’t meant to be wholly self-focused, but for the good of the whole take into the world  in small and big ways, that create ripples that reach the recesses of distortion and dark.

Inward directed inquiry and self care are not the end goals, but the way forward

Getting really clear and working on our stuff, allows us to discover and hone the ways of being that we want to bring into the world. 

Coming home to ourselves means we can then relate to others from a place of rootedness and grounding, and self-integrity, that we can then reflect out into the world-community near and far.